On Being Thin

I’m going to just say it. I hope you can hear it. BEING THIN is not the end-all & be-all of your existence. BEING THIN doesn’t solve your mental health problems – or fix your relationships. BEING THIN doesn’t make you smarter, more powerful, financially stable, or creative. If you’ve dieted 4 months, 4 years, or 40 years to reach some outward goal that seems to hold the solution to all of life’s problems, I implore you: work on liking yourself NOW, the way you are, because liking yourself regardless of your body fat levels is the only way to…

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to be on the internet and raging is not enough

Bad things happen. Painful things happen. Both in your personal life, and in the broader world. There is a fine line at times between taking responsibility for everything – to the point of self-blame and self-hate – and doing what you can, in the context of self-care. Know where your line is. That is your personal boundary. Good people do what they can. Most people ARE good. Good people get angry. Good people feel bad or sad or mad. Good people feel helpless and heartbroken. Good people have feelings about things. Good people act on those feelings in different ways.…

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You Can’t Go Back

Sometimes we set weight & number goals, often based on previous weight or how we looked at some earlier point in our lives. Or we set mobility or fitness goals based upon some other period. Here’s the thing: we grow older and our bodies change. 125 lbs at 21 may have been fantastic and healthy and gorgeous – but if you’re 31, 41, 51 … it may be unreasonable: not because “older” means “bigger” or “fatter” or “less attractive” or any other descriptives that may have emotional baggage associated with them, but simply because our bodies change over time. Perhaps…

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