Start Small

Start small. Start where you are. When it comes to making life changes, as much as I love positive self-talk and big ideas, I am an even bigger fan of practicality. If you are in a space of self-hate, self-love won’t just walk in the door and kick the self-hate aside. You have to start where you are, and find a small step you can actually manage right now, in your current headspace. Googling “positive affirmations” won’t fix you. You have to do something you can see and measure. If you are depressed, you feel exhausted, you feel stuck, you feel…

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to be on the internet and raging is not enough

Bad things happen. Painful things happen. Both in your personal life, and in the broader world. There is a fine line at times between taking responsibility for everything – to the point of self-blame and self-hate – and doing what you can, in the context of self-care. Know where your line is. That is your personal boundary. Good people do what they can. Most people ARE good. Good people get angry. Good people feel bad or sad or mad. Good people feel helpless and heartbroken. Good people have feelings about things. Good people act on those feelings in different ways.…

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Building a Habit

I have many good qualities. (It’s okay for me to say this. There was a time I thought it wasn’t, but it actually is okay. We’re given the message that liking ourselves is not okay. And so we don’t dare. Well, now I dare. I dare to like myself. That sounds funny, and it’s a bit tongue in cheek, but how many years did I spend NOT liking myself before I started to change my mind? Many years. And I wasn’t alone. Even now, I know very few people who honestly like themselves as they are. Everyone is looking to…

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