On Being Thin

I’m going to just say it. I hope you can hear it. BEING THIN is not the end-all & be-all of your existence. BEING THIN doesn’t solve your mental health problems – or fix your relationships. BEING THIN doesn’t make you smarter, more powerful, financially stable, or creative. If you’ve dieted 4 months, 4 years, or 40 years to reach some outward goal that seems to hold the solution to all of life’s problems, I implore you: work on liking yourself NOW, the way you are, because liking yourself regardless of your body fat levels is the only way to…

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Building a Habit

I have many good qualities. (It’s okay for me to say this. There was a time I thought it wasn’t, but it actually is okay. We’re given the message that liking ourselves is not okay. And so we don’t dare. Well, now I dare. I dare to like myself. That sounds funny, and it’s a bit tongue in cheek, but how many years did I spend NOT liking myself before I started to change my mind? Many years. And I wasn’t alone. Even now, I know very few people who honestly like themselves as they are. Everyone is looking to…

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You Can’t Go Back

Sometimes we set weight & number goals, often based on previous weight or how we looked at some earlier point in our lives. Or we set mobility or fitness goals based upon some other period. Here’s the thing: we grow older and our bodies change. 125 lbs at 21 may have been fantastic and healthy and gorgeous – but if you’re 31, 41, 51 … it may be unreasonable: not because “older” means “bigger” or “fatter” or “less attractive” or any other descriptives that may have emotional baggage associated with them, but simply because our bodies change over time. Perhaps…

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